How we show up- how we act- DRIVES how others respond to us, how others learn to treat us, how we will ACT in our next step, transaction, or choice. Behavior drives behavior. If people are not responding to you the way you want them to...try changing how you are showing up! If interesting trends … Continue reading Behavior Begets Behavior
Life moves fast. We leave people voice messages, we shoot out those text questions, hit send before reading drafted emails, pop-up with task-driven questions or directions. Are we pausing and consciously thinking about the person receiving the message? Or simply checking off a task with deliberate indifference and reckless disregard for the consequences of our acts on others?
"We created our vision, mission, and values! We are so proud of how we have implemented the culture, aligned with it all year, and of those that have championed it! We cannot wait to deliver the results of our survey." This was reported by a non-profit that had chosen to implement a values-driven culture. Truly … Continue reading What To Manage…?
1979. Gopher Valley Rd., Sheridan, Oregon. “Cora, run to town and get me a pack of cigarettes.” “I can’t. I can’t drive. I can’t do it. No.” “You can do it. You will do it. Go. Now.” At 16, having had my license for 3 months, I totaled my father’s car and put myself … Continue reading Self Leadership On Gopher Valley
Humans lie mostly to protect self and/or others. Since lying is about protection, it could be said lying- or not telling the truth-may involve a level of empathy, integrity, and/or compassion. Following this uncomfortable path may also suggest honesty can possess a lack of empathy, hurtful behavior, and/or lack of integrity.
Celeste Friedman is an award-winning singer who has tried marriage twice and has had many live-in boyfriends. Now she remains happily single, and she has written Single 101. When Cora Lonning’s parents divorced when she was 17, she held the divorce against her father for leaving her, deciding not to trust any men. But when … Continue reading The Value of the Father-Daughter Relationship
Let’s say you are the kind of person that grows best when you have someone guiding you: someone asking powerful questions; someone very caring to help you through rough spots; someone you can feel in partnership and candid with; and someone who remains neutral and keeps everything you say confidential--no shame, no blame, just support, … Continue reading A Conversation: Just What Is Coaching Anyway!
A day is just a day...and come what may, at the end of the day, I will find my way. Life is a journey and full of twists and turns! Things may get thrown at you and you may get derailed. Trust in yourself and know, it is all just a journey. Walk the … Continue reading You Will Find Your Way
Why would you want to rob one of their learning opportunity? Experience is the best teacher, not succeeding the first time is an important lesson. Rescuing is enabling, not supporting. You learned your lessons! Let them learn theirs!
You do not own their failures. People own their own. Accountability is a gift that builds self-respect. If you take ownership of their failures, you will see they will begin to give you their successes. Removing one more block from the foundation of self-respect.