Why would you want to rob one of their learning opportunity? Experience is the best teacher, not succeeding the first time is an important lesson. Rescuing is enabling, not supporting. You learned your lessons! Let them learn theirs!
You do not own their failures. People own their own. Accountability is a gift that builds self-respect. If you take ownership of their failures, you will see they will begin to give you their successes. Removing one more block from the foundation of self-respect.
The instructor asked some simple questions; “who did the team allow to impede progress? Who was able to change the dynamics in the moment? Who continued to change the team’s mind?” Unequivocally the answers came back –from the whole class, not the presenting team-team member number five. Confirming for the class that the power rested with the perceived weakest member!
Whether a four-year old or a forty-year old in the midst of a power struggle, the behavior may look a little different, but the dynamics will remain consistent; and although this four-year old continued to throw a temper tantrum, my father calmly continued to resist my invitation into a power struggle by placing the choice in my hands. “Cora, make your choice; I will give you a few minutes to decide to pick up your monkeys and put them away, go to your room and pick them up later, or not pick them up and no longer have a barrel of monkeys.” And calmly he walks away.
The sender-receiver model suggests we are sending and receiving messages simultaneously. I wonder sometimes if we are better at sending than receiving.